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A groom-to-be wants to know whether he’s in the wrong for threatening to disinvite his fiancée’s mom from his wedding after she called him “stingy” and complained about the size of the engagement ring.
In apost published on Reddit, the groom, who identifies himself as 34-years-old doctor, says that he and his 31-year-old fiancée, Emily, are footing the bill for their own wedding.
“We talked it through and I suggested we have a more chill, smaller wedding and save our money for a downpayment on a bigger house,” he writes in the post.
He explains, “I make significantly more than her (she’s a teacher and I’m a doctor) so I told her I would take care of the majority of expenses like the venue, catering, and planner if she just paid for her dress and smaller stuff like that.”
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What’s more, he adds, “I even overheard her talking to her sister about how small the diamond is in Emily’s ring and that it’s embarrassing a doctor won’t treat her daughter better (I spent about 5k which I thought was fair).”
“She just seemed so hung up on the fact that her daughter is marrying a doctor but the wedding/ring aren’t on a ‘doctor level,’ " the groom-to-be writes. “Based on what I know, I think she is a little embarrassed about her family’s socioeconomic status, and was hoping her daughter marrying a doctor would help ‘improve’ her image to her friends and extended family.”
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Commenters have voiced their own opinions on the matter, with many saying they agree that the poster should disinvite his future mother-in-law.
“This sounds incredibly exhausting and selfish — she’s ruining the atmosphere of a special day for her daughter and for you. I hope this doesn’t foreshadow how she’ll be throughout your marriage,” one commenter wrote. “Sounds like a nightmare.
Another implored the original poster to “be sure to get a prenup,” adding: “And set clear boundaries about how much access MIL gets to you, your home, your family plus assets going forward.”
Another commenter said the situation should lead to “a serious conversation with Emily.” They added, “Is she really okay with the plan you’ve made for your wedding, or would she like to invite more people, for instance? Just make sure you don’t steamroll your fiancée into agreeing to something she may not actually want.”
Others were less convinced that the groom had cause to be so angry. One person wrote, “You don’t have the right to uninvited the brides mother. What does Emily want? And does Emily want just a small wedding and down-payment for a house or is her mother speaking some level of truth here about Emily’s wishes?”
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source: people.com
